*Disclaimer: I am not a medical proffesional. If you are planning or conteplating self harm, please seek a medical proffesional.*
Mental health is way more than just being positive, its a way to make sure that you are stable mentally even if the physical world is crumbling!
Mental health doesnt have to be only be medication and therapy (although therapy can be very helpful and sometimes needed). I just simply want to give some pointers that I learned through my mental health journey.
Tip #1 - Be honest with yourself
The very first thing that I needed to do when discovering what I was going through mentally was being honest with myself. Which IS NOT an easy thing to do. Most of time you would want to convince yourself and your subconscious that you are truly fine and unbothered when you are just the opposite.
Tip #2 - Remember what you feel and journal it later
I am a huge person on journaling. So whenever I feel unsteady, I acknowledge what that feeling or thought is whether it's self doubt, anxiety, depressive or suicidal thoughts, or even jealousy. This biggest part of being mentally healthy is ackowdleging what you feel. No one is perfect so its better to accept the good, the bad, and ugliest parts of yourself so you know exaclty how to balance those thoughts out.
I sometimes use journaling prompts to help get the conversation started (examples of simple ones below). I suggest getting a journal strictly for your mind, so that its doesnt became too busy and you know exaclty what your about to do when your pick up that pen and notebook. It doesn't have to be on paper however, I would rather journal on paper because it removes all the technological discrations.
"How are you feeling today?"
"If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be and why?"
"What makes you happy?"
Tip #3 - Find a outlet
Finding an outlet is another top tier thing to have when you aren't feeling the best. The best part of having an outlet is that you can indulge in this activity whenever, and sometimes wherever. My favorite outlet is music. I love to listen to music that matches my mood. It makes me feel that I'm not alone even if I'm in my room by myself. Outlets could be anything, as long as it helps you balance and maybe escape this horrible world we live ond does not cause any harm to you or other people. Outlets could also look like reading, sewing, cleaning, dancing, meditating, showering,etc. Just try one out and see how you feel afterward.
Tip #4 - State some positive affirmations
Affirmations are statements that you say to yourself aloud or in your mind that can change the way you look at yourself. Affirmations are a powerful way to train yourself into truly believing what you are saying. I like to state affirmations within the first hour I wake up because the subconscious is still strong. Honestly doing anything within the first hour you wake up is a way that you can control how your day starts; almost like making your bed. Here are some good affirmations to start with:
"I look beautiful today"
"I am doing the best I can"
"I love myself"
Tip #5 - Find someone you trust
Finding someone you trust is very important while you are going through your mental health journey. Confiding in someone and being heard is so important because its way harder to convince yourself your crazy for feeling those things when there are poeple in your corner cheering you on. This person could be anyone, as long as you feel comfortable enough to be completely vunerable. So its time to put those trust issues to rest. If medical help is needed then please seek that out. Sometime talking to a complete stranger is great, even with how bizarre it seems. For me, it took me almost 4 years to go to someone that I trust to tell them I was struggling. The road still isn't easy, but now I know that there is someone there for me for moral support!
Mental health is hard
This journey can be incredibly hard. You are breaking barriers and discovering yourself so cut yourself some slack. Don't be affraid to take Mental Health days. You are your first priority, whether you realize it or not.